Defects are behavioral attitudes that are unpleasant or uncomfortable and that in one way or another have consequences for us and those around us.
Hence, defects make up a set of unwanted characteristics that must be avoided and corrected, in order to consolidate better social relationships and be better people.
Doing so would reduce injustices, increase friendships, have more agreements and live happier with those around us.
Do you happen to know the defects that belong to you? Or do you know which are the defects of others that upset you the most?
Dislike is characterized by a lack of sympathy or warmth towards others. Unpleasant people can be distant and unfriendly. For example, an obnoxious person to whom you ask a question may decide not to answer you despite knowing the answer. You greet a nasty person out of politeness and he doesn't answer even though he heard you.
There are people who very quickly turn on their anger against any event or circumstance. Anger leads to violent actions that create damage. It is a loss of control and a perception of too strong feelings. This defect is problematic, as well as being condemned by society it can lead to heart disease. It needs to be checked and improved. See also transform anger .
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There are people who stand out for being constantly in a bad mood for different reasons (family, work, personal etc ...), but nobody likes being with this type of people because they don't have a good sense of humor and because their heavy mood infects others.
Lying is one of the most common faults, it can also create great future conflicts depending on the level of untruth. Lies can be directed both towards others and towards ourselves. For example, lying about our fears and fears out of shame in admitting a weakness in front of others.
Listlessness is a defect that affects people's responsibilities. Being listless is a lack of energy that accompanies the unwillingness to do any activity.
For example, being unwilling to rearrange your room and keep your house tidy.
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Apathy is total disinterest and lack of motivation to get things done or participate in any activity. This defect generally goes hand in hand with a lack of vitality. Apathetic people do not contribute opinions and often become paralyzed in the face of any situation.
For example, when a person is at a party and is uncomfortable because he is aware that he will not participate fully.
This defect refers to the lack of skill or dexterity that a person has to carry out a common activity or that can be found in the routine. Being clumsy is a limiting impediment that can generate frustration, as you cannot do something in the "right", "right" or "right" way.
For example, when a person is unable to carry out group activities because he always forgets something at home.
Messy people are characterized by being both careless with their appearance and what they do. For this reason, the disordered person is characterized as a person who does not perform, who does not carry out things with finesse, care or commitment. For example, handing over documents printed on damaged paper or leaving the house upside down.
Because order does not bring happiness and disorder does
These are those people with always negative thinking, who tend to stop thinking about their goals to focus on the catastrophic vision of the same. The pessimistic person always highlights the most negative and unfavorable aspects of a situation, he can also completely turn off the happiness of others. This way of thinking also changes the way you act. This is why it is always better to think in a positive, optimistic way. For example, a person is pessimistic when before going to a job interview he already thinks he will not get that job.
Failing to carry out one's duties or not being able to honor covenants is an example of an irresponsible person. This leads to the loss of trust from all those people who have not completed a job or a deal.
Dishonest people are those who lie or deceive others in order to obtain a personal benefit and without measuring the consequences of their acts. The dishonest gradually loses credibility. For example, they win races by deceiving the opponent.
Selfish people only want their own benefit and always more benefits than those they already have. Generally selfish people are not used to sharing their possessions or knowledge with others, moreover, when they do not reach their goal they can also become resentful or angry with others.
For example, two classmates friends study together and one scores higher than the other. The one with the lowest grade gets angry with himself and his friend for being outdone.
Much like selfishness, meanness is characterized by a lack of generosity and sharing one's possessions with others, even with those who really need help. For example, the man who exhibits great fortune but is unable to help others.
It refers to the lack of courage and boldness to express or act in the face of any situation that may affect our well-being or that of the people around us. For example, being unable to tell a classmate to stop being spiteful towards another friend, for no apparent reason or cause.
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It is a defect that can be positive in some cases and negative in others. Proud people do not recognize their mistakes, they do not like the idea of asking for forgiveness and this makes relationships with others more difficult as it can easily hurt feelings or be offensive.
The proud, for example, deny having made wrong choices, for the sole thought that he "is not wrong".
Understood as denial, those people who deny the evidence and reality are unable to accept the problems they have, to self-analyze even though they may be aware of this. They don't cope with this kind of situation.
This defect can be dangerous because it leads to a kind of vicious circle, where the person denying his mistakes and reality can find himself unable to face the situations that life puts before him.
Stingy people are the ones who avoid spending as much money as possible. This attitude is quite uncomfortable when sharing time with friends, family or acquaintances.
It is good to save for some purpose but it becomes negative when you don't even put your hand in your wallet to offer something to a friend. For example, you go out in a group with friends and when it comes to paying you deny yourself sharing the expense or hide yourself using a diversion.
A fanatic person tends to act in an irrational way and without measuring the consequences of what he does. By doing so, this type of person demonstrates an extreme connection with his opinion and passions, as he considers that others are "wrong". For example a football fanatic who thinks only his opinions are realistic.
Ignoring the good advice people give him is part of the foolish person. Fools generally insist on doing any task or activity without measuring the possible consequences, this can cause things to turn out badly. For example, when a mother tells a child not to run on a wet floor, the child does not listen and then falls hurting himself.
Emotional addiction has a lot to do with low self-esteem and the inability to perform various activities without someone's support. Generally a person you love.
Furthermore, people who have this addiction tend to maintain long-term relationships that can harm or hurt them, they tend to put their happiness in the last place to be close to people who hurt them.
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Indifference is a defect for which people begin not to feel any sensation towards the events of others or outside. In practice they do not express any kind of feeling of pain or suffering towards the disasters that could affect someone else or a group of people in particular. For example, a person might be impatient in front of a people at war or in front of a person who is dying of hunger.
It is a friendly defect of indifference. A cold person is not moved by an uneasiness that someone else is going through. For example, learning about a friend's death and not blinking.
Defensive people are those who have a hard time accepting the opinions and comments of others. In general, this is a problem that has its roots in communication. It can explode in episodes of quarrel or assault.
For example, kids who tend to fight defensive and fighting.
Dominant people are attracted to having control over others or something. It is about always knowing everything and considering yourself the most responsible and suitable people to make any decision.
For example, when the "leader" emerges in a group of friends who always makes decisions without taking into account the opinions of others.
This defect is associated with mental manipulation towards someone. Generally it is a negative quality, because the manipulator tries to influence the victim's actions and mind, distorts reality and uses blackmail. For example, the exclusive and judgmental religions that use a supernatural entity to make people feel guilty. Or the people who use rationalization to get a result.
This defect involves the difficulty of accepting the comments, behavior or actions of others if they are not considered correct. At the same time this leads to being unable to recognize that other people are right. For example, when an owner behaves in an uncompromising manner without considering why her employee has behaved in a certain way or has made certain choices that she does not approve of.
The proud person has a constant feeling of superiority which can involve a form of contempt for others. Superb people have great difficulty accepting their limitations.
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A perfectionist carries out a task and never stops "improving" because he always sees a lack of perfection. This generates exorbitant levels of stress in the individual as well as profound distress. There is always a feeling of dissatisfaction with the final result, until it meets its parameters. It can also be a positive quality because it encourages the person to do more, learn more and act more. However, it should be moderate.
Gossiping is a flaw that affects a lot of people, it's about making comments or talking behind other people's personal problems. Gossipy people generally do it with bad intentions. These comments can sometimes even be false to increase the appeal of the gossip itself. Gossipers can become dangerous. For example, inventing a story about someone and turning it into a "super news" of the moment.
Superficial people are those who are always attentive only to their physical appearance and how they appear to others. This includes not only clothes and accessories, but also luxury and money. This defect brings with it a lot of narcissism and involves being uncritical, it is a sign of low self-esteem. For example, superficiality can be seen in those people who are increasingly attentive to what they exhibit and how they do it to get noticed.
This defect is to buy, consume and take advantage of a lot of things that may not really be necessary. Consumerism generates very high expenses of money and can lead to becoming superficial. For example, always buy the latest phone just released even if we have the previous one in perfect condition and still working properly.
A feeling that creates sadness and a feeling of bad luck for not being able to do or have what the neighbor has. This can be anything, couples, money, workplace, benefits, home, car, or other items. It can really apply to everything. It prevents and blocks the happiness of the people who suffer from it who inevitably do not enjoy what they already have.
Criticism can be as destructive as it is constructive. The constructive ones aim to sincerely help others, the destructive ones instead of helping someone, have the aim of hurting. People who throw destructive criticism do so to manipulate or harm the other person. For example, criticizing the way a person does something.
It refers to a person with a feeling of superiority towards others. Being arrogant means feeling superior to others, in fact these people generally act disrespectfully and bully towards others.
This flaw can make a clean sweep of friendships, love affairs, and jobs. The disloyal person puts his own self-interest ahead of everything, such as: friendships, family, partners, and commitments made. He is a person who easily hurts the feelings of others.
Stingy people are not satisfied with what they have, they want more and more because of this constant feeling of lack. They generally want more and more quantities of material goods which, once obtained, they hardly share with others. For the miser, happiness corresponds to having more and holding on to it.
Aggressive people get angry very easily and often act violently. Most of the time they do not accept criticism or comments from others to which they respond in a disrespectful way or coming to threats. See also how to manage emotions.
Does not accept the opinions of others, other beliefs, ways of doing etc ... Intolerant people do not accept the differences they have with others and this quality tends to make relationships in general very difficult.
Being a conservative person can also be a flaw, because it is denial or fear of accepting changes. They tend to defend traditions and reject new lifestyles that are inevitable with the passing of the years. For example, those families where the father does not accept that the children take up a profession other than his own.
Think only of himself and his own self-interest. Ignore others by always trying to be the focal point of every situation, dialogue, problem or happy event. It has to do with low self-esteem.
He exceeds in small or large acts of daily corruption for personal gain. He always tries to bribe, betray, violate the laws, dissolve agreements, not pay taxes, etc ... For example, when the owner of a thriving business evades the tax authorities to get more money.
This personality has too much authority and leads him to act with intolerance and frivolously. The authoritarian person believes that he is always right and his orders must be carried out without question. For example, an owner who does not accept an observation, even if correct, from an employee.
A person full of resentment for having accused a physical or moral offense. People can hold a grudge for a long time, and it can sometimes lead to revenge. This disorder can hurt social relationships, always remembering the evil can lead to completely isolating oneself and compromising the mental health of the individual. He is generally unable to forgive.
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This person has a problem carrying out a task or performing a function. The incompetent can bring big problems both to himself and to others. For example, an incompetent could not take on a prominent position in society because it would lead to its destruction.
One of the worst defects in existence. The cruel person may intentionally carry out a series of actions aimed at making another being, animal or human, suffer, harm or cause pain. This type of people do not repent of their acts and are aware of the damage they cause, taking pleasure in it.
Cynicism is a defect that brings violence with it and is quite negative. Cynical people lie, steal, are selfish and aggressive so they have a tendency to assume negative attitudes. The problem is that they generally don't repent of their acts. A cynic would never admit that he lied for his own benefit.
The racist is a personality who brings with him a feeling of superiority towards others and constant intolerance. A racist can foment hatred and aggression or even do them, without reason, especially towards people he considers inferior or different from him. For example, he does not respond to the greeting of someone who has different ethnic features from his own.
Jealous people are those who feel threatened by the loss of something or someone, so they act in a desperate way feeling anxiety, anger, fear, sadness and more ... Most of the time the Jealous is a person who is unsure of himself or of insecurities that others transmit to him. Hence a need to have close to the object of the origin of his apparent problem. He is a dangerous personality, many passionate murders have been committed because of this flaw.
He is a person who would do anything to get what he wants. Generally these are people who have a lot of skills and are very smart at deceiving and manipulating others. They pretend to be good people but they are not. For example, a workmate who encourages a superior to argue with the boss, because in reality he wants his superior to be fired and so can try to take his place.
This is rather negative, revenge is a response steeped in violence that goes against any moral or ethical value. Being vindictive comes from a feeling of humiliation, loss, or grief after an important event. Revenge is a serious response that can go so far as to be very violent, mean and destructive.