They are people who have a good image of themselves. Love is their highest ideal. For them love can do anything and for love everything is valid. They are warm and emotional people who care a lot about their personal relationships, they dedicate a tremendous amount of energy at this and they hope to be appreciated for their efforts.
They usually participate in society with a social conscience and are outgoing. They are the kind of people who remember everyone's birthday and go above and beyond to help out a colleague, spouse or friend. They are people who usually thrive in the helping professions. They are tactful with people; they perceive them emotionally.
For them it is very important to be able to help others: it is a gesture that makes them feel good about themselves and above all important. Individuals belonging to enneatype 2 are convinced of their disinterest, and it is true that they often are genuinely available and caring for others. It is also true, however, that these people need to feel needed.
But the love they give is not entirely without reason; give to receive. Ennatype 2 tend to develop a sense of entitlement when dealing with people closest to them. Because they have sacrificed themselves for others, they begin to feel indebted to them.
They can become pushy and demanding if their often unacknowledged emotional needs are not met. They can be manipulative and attempt to command others: they feel fully justified in doing so as "They have earned the right" and their intentions are good. The darker side of Enneatype 2 appears when they begin to feel that they will never get the love they deserve for all their endeavors. In such circumstances, they can become hysterical and irrational.
Because they tend to help others to meet their needs, they may forget to take care of themselves. This can lead to physical wear and tear and emotional exhaustion. Enneatypes 2 need to learn that they can be of real help to others only if they are healthy, balanced and focused on themselves. These individuals feel bad about themselves if they don't play an obvious role in helping someone in their life.
They want to be loved and they want to be needed for others, to make others respond in front of them.
He knows how to give warmth and support, he likes to help and comfort those who suffer, he likes that others need him and is happy to make himself available to others. He likes to laugh and see others happy. Appreciate a lot that in relationships there is affection and puts love into what he does.
The ability to contact one's needs, recognize them and ask for help (E4)
"I have so much to give ..." "I need ..."
Because it does everything with good intentions, it ignores criticism and does not recognize its shortcomings.
When cheerful enneatype 2 tend towards enneatype 8, they become aggressive and dominant.
The "pride" of Enneatype 2 can be understood as an imaginary exaltation of its value and attractive power. These are people who have a good image of themselves. They tend to be considered "more gifted" than to the others. They deny many of their needs by trying to "help" others.
It is the rationalization of pride. It is the thought for which they support their sense of greatness.
Ennepo 2's need to feel special is satisfied by the love of the other. It is the other who confirms his inflated sense of his own worth. The fact that this confirmation is accomplished with love corresponds to frustration child who have suffered.
The desire to be loved degenerates into the need to be needy.
They see themselves as people who help others. Helping others makes them feel great. But this help is selective, only for those who consider it. Behind this "helping" a neurotic "giving in order to receive" can be hidden.
Because of his self-image of self-magnification and generosity in helping others, he fears to feel that he too has needs (emotional and affective needs); this could indicate that its size is not great. Its more great fear is that of being unworthy of love and of alienating his friends and loved ones.
Discovering the needs and wants of others, thus creating addictions.
He explains his actions as gestures of selflessness.
Enneatype 2 individuals, fearing that they are neither wanted nor loved, make others feel unworthy to give love, generosity, or attention.
The term "repression" refers to the mechanism that prevents certain internal urges or desires from becoming aware. By responding to these impulses, but without cognitively recognizing them, one can have an attitude irresponsibility and give an impression of falsehood.
WISHES TO BE SPECIAL and feel better than others.
NEED LOVE, delicate feeling. He needs erotic love. Tenderness and possessiveness.
SEDUCTION, effort to be warm, attractive. It seduces those it perceives as people of value.
ASSERTIVE, dominate, subdue. Strong momentum and disinhibition.
HEDONISM, pleasure-oriented character. Difficulty in the face of pain, conflict and frustration.
ISTRIONISM, makes scenes to get attention or get away with it. It does not accept rules or limits. Susceptible.
OPPORTUNIST, gives to receive, helps to feel important. He gets angry if his wishes are not met.
Humility is recognizing one's own truth and sharing it with others without falling into enlarging one's image, that is, recognizing mistakes and one's ignorance, accepting criticism.
Humility is simplicity, releasing grandeur and understanding that you are one among many.
Let go of the addiction to love and pleasure, accept that pain exists, that things don't always go the way you want. Recognizing the shortcomings, what is missing, learning to ask instead of demanding.
He must be more aware of the effort he continually makes to please others and must not place much value on how they perceive it.
He must remember that it is impossible to please everyone. Furthermore, it is not certain that others express a possible liking in the way we expect it, they can do it in a more subtle way or simply in a different way. It's important remember that if you don't feel loved it doesn't mean that others don't love you.
Be honest with people. Don't systematically compliment or engage in other manipulative behaviors to win people over. Don't make yourself completely available to others. You can help them, but to some extent, that is not an "all or nothing". Remember that the first person you need to help and care for is you.
Do not give too much even in an altruistic way, maybe then you will miss it. Be aware of the real reasons that drive you to help or give to others. Learn to be aware of the "give to receive" process and / or if there is a search for wanting to feel good as a motive for beneficial actions towards others. You have to be very honest with yourself about your intentions.
Be aware that your pride compensates for an unconscious feeling of not being wanted. A greater dose of pride and arrogance means that the person suffers more that feeling of not being wanted. It is not needed be the best to be loved. Your attitude must be more realistic and therefore more humble, but without falling into false humility, which is also a form of pride.
Be aware of your limits, you cannot "everything". You too are human, in flesh and blood, you get tired and need rest. Make sure you stick to your limits.
Of the three subtypes of Enneatype 2, this is the one where pride is least noticeable and the one that most clearly prefers to receive rather than give. Outwardly it may have an apparently more childlike behavior. It is the most emotional of the three subtypes.
They are called "privileged" for their tendency to consider themselves deserving of special and better treatment ("toast that isn't broken is for me"). More than wanting to be important, they really want to be assisted (they are there "little Princess"). They are capricious. If they are denied what they want, they can get angry.
Like all Enneatypes 2 they are great seducers and manipulators, but unlike the other subtypes, they take these attitudes from a more childlike position, in a way more like a child would.
The goal of Enneatype 2 in this subtype is to earn the love of others by providing them with the help or assistance they need. They are happy to provide such aids. I am able to anticipate needs of the people and try to satisfy these aids. After caring for others for a while, they tend to expect others to do the same for them. “They have the right to“… be treated preferentially. As if were convinced that by doing the right things they deserve life to be "right" with them. In this exchange of "help / favors" they may overestimate their action and expect to receive a lot in return.
They can act with superiority towards others and expect preferential treatment that reinforces their pride. It is difficult for them to ask others directly for what they need. They expect them to give it to them without it ask (as they are supposed to have done before). Sometimes, instead of asking directly, they drop clues in hopes that the other person will respond by offering them what they need. If the other person doesn't ago, they can get angry and let off steam easily (childish behavior). Angry they can look like enneatype 8. In the way they expect special treatment, they can sometimes look like enneatype 4 . But Enneatype 4 tends to seek this special treatment as a compensation for unfair treatment in life.
Instead, Enneatype 2 of this subtype, tends to feel that he is "entitled to ..." as a reward for all the things he has done for others ("after all I have done for you").
Enneatype 2 belonging to the conservative subtype, tends to be very protective and attentive to their friends and family.
Sometimes, they can compensate for feelings of loneliness or rejection by indulging in tantrums such as material objects, sweets, or food. This personality pattern is a little more prone to eating disorders. They are also more prone than others subtypes to suffer from melancholy and psychosomatic illnesses. These disorders can also be a way to seek more attention, express anger indirectly, and hurt those who care about them.
When Enthene Type 2 individuals are healthier they are loving, attentive, and generous. They help others without expecting anything in return. There is a balance between their needs and those of others.
When they are less healthy, it is difficult for them to ask for what they need directly. They feel they have a right to have their needs met and expect others to know and give them what they need. They can act in an egocentric and childish way.
Of the three subtypes of Entype 2, this is the most mental, restrained and disciplined. They are the ones who care the most about their public image. They are used to being sociable and cheerful (similar to 7-year-olds) and they feed interactions with their friends. They love to relate to people and are used to creating social networks in which they interact with agility and ease. They know how to sell / seduce / manipulate. Sometimes they can be confused with social enneatype 3 . They can put more energy into the group than into themselves.
Social ennea-types feel loved and occupy an important place in the lives of their friends and family.
They try to attend meetings and social events. They try to make themselves indispensable to the groups they are involved in. They are used to acting as advisers, coordinators and anything that involves participation and help of the others. They can represent the role of person that everyone needs.
They have good radar for catching people who may need their help. Above all, they love to help important people.
They are called "ambitious" because they want to stand out in society, they don't want to go unnoticed. They want to do something important in the world and they feel capable of doing it. It has to be someone and it has to be recognized in mass. They tend to be self-centered.
There is some confusion between being loved and being recognized. For this they try to surround themselves with socially recognized people, successful or famous people. They seek attention both for their efforts and successes for social purposes, and to be close to other people with this social recognition. They are used to taking a leadership position or being alongside the leader, whom they try to seduce. Sometimes they become "the power behind the power" to relate to and influence powerful people. They could marry someone important and focus their efforts on their spouse's aspirations, such as a "first lady".
The ideal they pursue is to be socially recognized by their social welfare actions. When social enneatypes 2 are in a healthier state they can exert much effort for people and social causes. They strive for the group, but they also take care of themselves. They are excellent organizers of social events and have the ability to deal with people in different fields.
When social ennea-types are in a less healthy state, they fear being forgotten by others and try too hard to be recognized and popular. They can put too much energy into trying to be seen with successful or important people. If they feel ignored, they can act defiantly or nasty to get noticed. They focus so much on social relationships that they can put little conscience into their well-being. They may also engage with too many groups or people.
Of the three subtypes of Enneatype 2, they are the most seductive and aggressive. They can't bear to be rejected, so if they feel like they are, they reject them first. They are very proud.
They are called "conquerors" because they are very seductive and love to do it interpersonally (one by one). They want to win over all the people they care about to "make them theirs".
Sexual Enneatype 2 feels loved when it gets close to people. Try to win over or seduce the people you love by focusing intensely on each other's needs, hopes, and interests. It is like get in tune with each other. They enjoy discovering what the other likes, be it a hobby, a music or a restaurant. Then he will do everything possible to provide these things to his loved ones, with the ultimate goal to conquer or seduce them. They also seduce with praise, they can make the other feel like the recipient of their adoration. They try to be as close to their loved ones as possible.
For these individuals, the romantic life is essential. In their intense love life they tend to confuse being loved with being wanted and therefore they tend to provoke desire in the other; they feed on this desire.
They are used to combining charm with sex appeal. It can be a challenge for them to be able to seduce someone and they can put a lot of energy into that. Sometimes the way to seduce can be aggressive. They can also lose interest in the seduced person and having more interest in those people who have not yet seduced. They promise more in their relationships than they actually give.
When sexual enneatypes 2 are healthier they have the intuitive ability to know the needs and interests of others and know how to approach people. They are good at perceiving and interpreting each other's non-verbal language.
When the sexual enneatype 2 is less healthy they are able to do anything to reach the other, especially if there is a love interest. They may fear being rejected and hiding their true needs behind their apparent need generosity. They can also be possessive and demanding. At worst they can be obsessed with someone and / or have great difficulty leaving a relationship.