People with this personality type are distinguished by feeling threatened, as if there is nothing solid enough to hold on to. The core personality type of Enneatype 6 is a kind of fear or anxiety. This anxiety or fear can manifest itself in a number of ways, making this personality type difficult to describe in a generic way. However, what they all have in common is fear rooted at the core of their personality, manifesting in the worry and fantasies of everything that could go wrong. This trend causes Enneatype 6 to be ready for problem solving, but it also deprives them of spontaneity and peace. the mind they need so much Anxiety is at the core of Enneatype 6.
This fixation tends to impregnate the personality with a kind of "defensive suspicion" due to which they are not easily trusted. They tend to be ambivalent with others, until the other has demonstrated firmly that there you can trust him. Enneatype 6 is prone to respond with unwavering fidelity, also considering that they are usually looking for something or someone to believe in. This, coupled with his general distrust, creates a complicated relationship with authority. The part of Enneatype 6 that is looking for something to believe in is often very susceptible to the temptation to transform an external source into authority, whether in the form of an individual or a creed. But the Enneatype 6 tendency towards distrust and suspicion works against all belief in authority. There are therefore two opposing forces with respect to the other in the personality of this enneatype: loyalty and distrust.
The confusing element when it comes to describing those who belong to Ennea Type 6 is that there are two fundamentally different strategies they adopt to deal with fear. Some are fundamentally phobic, in this category there are usually generally affable and cooperative individuals. Other people of enneatype 6 adopt the opposite strategy of dealing with fear: they tend to have a rebellious stance against everything that they find threatening. These are those who face authority or take a bold attitude towards physical danger. Enneatype 6 rebels can be aggressive and instead seek protection in authority (as does the phobic enneatype 6), can adopt a rebellious and anti-authoritarian attitude. They are often unaware of the fear that motivates their actions. In fact, Enneatype 6 in general tends not to perceive size of their own anxiety and to have little awareness of their fear.
They want to have security, to feel supported by others, to have certainty and tranquility, to control the attitudes of others towards them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity.
He is loyal, affable and close. He likes to know and he is attracted to great truths and spirituality. He is interested in the truth and is not satisfied with false appearances. Prioritize the needs of the efa group so that everyone stays together. He doubts everything, so he is good at foreseeing difficulties and anticipating problems. Despite being intellectual, he shows emotions and likes to be accepted.
- Lost quality
The ability to relax in the face of the possibility of problems and trust that all will be well (ennea type 9)
"What if it isn't so?" “What are the true intentions of others?” And how do I know it's not a deception?
They see Giants where there are only windmills or they fear they will die by drowning in a glass of water
When Enneatype 6 tends towards Enneatype 3 they become competitive and arrogant.
Search for security driven by a sense of fear and somatized as anguish and a feeling of anxiety
External Threats: Bulling
Internal threats: incontinence, health, the belief that you are going crazy
Difficulty resolving threats
The threat can be real or imagined
He specializes in catastrophic scenarios, in the imaginary traps he builds
They live in a continuous upheaval, they cannot rest assured
The predominant emotion is: FEAR, INSECURITY, ANXIETY, ANXIETY
Faced with these fears, they seek safety in the church, state, police ...
They live in chronic tension and somatization: crisis ...
They have problems with authority because while it protects us, it annihilates us
Feeling of being powerless that makes them hyper-vigilant
They are very hierarchical, they know who has power and who doesn't
The sense of guilt and self-control is very present, this accompanies it permanently. They are two sides of the same coin and this increases the sense of fear.
Before I blame him, he takes it out on himself
Fear of one's own impulse and very profound error
They often have very authoritarian, demanding, brusque parents with little presence
They seek very intellectual solutions and do not go through other types of more appropriate solutions
They have a lot of sensitivity, even if they give them little emotion
They don't trust, they stay on alert (hypervigilance)
Although Enneatype 6 may be afraid of concrete things, this refers to an emotion in front of life, to the unconscious perception of feeling that the world is a dangerous place. "Fear" can express itself in an attitude cowardice, but often expressed in a defensive or fighting attitude. Anxiety is usually present in this personality model.
His intellectual doubt is a rationalization of his emotional doubt, in which he argues between seducing and hating, between the desire to please and the desire to stand against, to obey and rebel, to admire and invalidate. Sometimes the ambivalence of these people can be clearly observed, at other times, as a defense against unbearable ambiguity, they can take the position of a genuine believer who is absolutely sure of things.
They debate the ambivalence of obeying or rebelling, but have a habit of considering themselves more obedient people (because if there is rebellion they think it is "justified").
They fear that they will transgress out of guilt, that they deserve to be punished; they also fear that they have no support or guidance and that their actions could compromise their safety.
What a person who is afraid that "something" might really want is to be sure that "something" can't happen.
The desire for security degenerates into a strong attachment to beliefs (they perceive security in these).
Complains and tests the loyalty or commitment of others.
They justify their actions to achieve the desired safety.
Enneatype 6, fearing they lack support and guidance, undermine the support systems of others, trying to isolate them in some way.
Projection can be understood as a mental functioning that claims to avoid the sense of guilt, and for this reason they tend to blame the other.
PARANOID CHARACTER, sees hidden meanings and intentions in the actions of others.
IDEALIST, logical, devoted to reason, fanatic, theoretical orientation, critic, accuser and interrogator.
SEARCH for support and safety in the other, in the rules or in the allies.
FEAR-ANXIETY: to change, to the unknown, to error, hostility, deception and loneliness. Anxiety, fear of being, distrust.
RIGIDITY, a sense of duty that he places before pleasure.
BELLICOSO, submits or rebels to authority. Fear of punishment.
DOUBT of himself and of others. Look for security. It struggles in the duality, between doing or not doing; "to be or not to be".
We live in a dangerous and hostile world from which we must defend ourselves. I have something vulnerable to protect. Being tender is incompatible with defense.
The best defense is to be harmless or to attack before being attacked. If I'm not alert and in control, something bad can happen to me, you have to be prepared for the worst.
It is better not to act so as not to risk making mistakes.
I have to accept the group rules and show my loyalty to be accepted.
If I show anger they won't want me. If I confront someone, the relationship breaks down.
The "bad guys" must be judged and condemned. When something bad happens, you have to seek out and punish the "guilty".
I have to be responsible and respect the rules to be accepted.
If I show weakness they hurt me. Nobody will protect me, I have to protect myself.
We can flow in touch with our true being and life in a spontaneous, loving and compassionate way, trusting ourselves, others and life.
I can let go and trust.
The world is not that bad, one can be open and receptive, without much defense, without judging others for their mistakes, I too can be wrong.
We all have our weak side and there is nothing wrong with showing it.
If I have the courage to show my emotions, to face problems and to dare to be, I will be more loved and appreciated.
Trusting others is good for me and for others. My relationships can be better.
Trust will give me strength, courage, security and certainty.
The truth does not lie in beliefs and ideals, but in contact with our inner reality and that of others.
Courage is the strength to face oneself, to dare to be, to show oneself, to act. Heroism is telling one's truth, showing one's fear and insecurity.
Having the courage to look within, contact your emotions and needs and act consistently. Respect their freedom to be and that of others.
Dare to dissolve intellectual references and rules, be more spontaneous.
Learn to trust yourself and others, develop more intuition and creativity.
Concerning subtype 6 conservation: take risks, face, make decisions and act. Draw your strength and the courage to live his coldness, his loneliness and his independence. release control and the role of a good child.
Social Subtype 6: Dare more starting from intuition and emotion Releasing intellectual references, control and duty Living more pleasure. Be more spontaneous, creative and have self-confidence and self-confidence other.
Sexual subtype 6: showing insecurity, fear and weakness. Take the courage to recognize the truth. Facing less of the other and more of oneself and one's fears. Do not defend or justify yourself, experience tenderness.
Become aware of how your mind tends to project itself into the future and to analyze / evaluate possible situations in which something could "go wrong". Your defense mechanisms will tell you that this analysis to prevent possible adverse situations is what protects you from future "ills". But nothing further from reality! This digression of thought into future situations is actually a paranoid analysis of the future, where all are identified the possible "threats".
If you think about whether possible "threats" can appear in a given situation, you will always find "threats", and you will live according to them; trying to prevent them. And so, you can spend most of your life doing it actions and by adopting attitudes to prevent future so-called "threatening" situations, but which is not yet known if they will really occur.
Life is lived and enjoyed in the present, if you always act for a better future, you will spend your life in bondage to your fears. You have to trust that if such feared situations arise, you will already know how behave in that moment. You have to trust your ability to solve problems when they arise. The belief that you can prevent problems so they don't materialize is a fantasy; a fantasy that prevents you to enjoy the present. Also, if you invest your energy in thinking about future situations (for example a business meeting), this reduces the effectiveness of your present performance, forgetting to make an important phone call. or ignoring a real warning sign.
Fear is an inner feeling with which you have to learn to live with, not get tired trying to reduce this feeling. Put your effort into supporting her instead of trying to reduce this feeling. It is not easy, but the key is learning to trust.
Learn to trust your instincts more and not give so much importance to thought, which often gets stuck in an endless circle. The silent mind is more effective than a mind that won't stop talking. True wisdom is in the body. has no words. Meditation attentive to bodily sensations can be very beneficial in being able to silence the mind.
STORAGE: they are very WARM, have an affable and warm way of relating to people. They act with "warmth", closeness, sweetness to obtain the necessary things.
Of the three subtypes of enneatype 6, this subtype appears the scariest. He is also the most emotional, shy, withdrawn, indecisive, faltering, submissive, and insecure. Constantly try to stay safe and out of danger. This subtype is more nervous and dependent. He tends to look for people who can protect him.
It could be said that people of the Enneatype 6 subtype conservation practice that phrase that says "The best defense is not to feel attacked". When they are afraid of others, they tend to smile and show warmth, in this way they try to make sure that the other does not "attack" them.
They use humor, charm, flatter others by earning their friendship. They tend to show themselves as discreet people and in relationships they seem to put themselves under the other. They prefer to appear apparently helpless, weak and vulnerable, thus inviting the other to take their side.
They usually speak well of most people. They have good communication skills and are able to tell someone a hard truth, but in a sweet and friendly way. When dealing with someone, they have the attitude from "I win and you win".
They are used to being housewives and like to feel safe in their home, to which they give a function of refuge or fortress; a place to be safe.
Like all conservation subtypes, it places a lot of importance on anything related to personal well-being or survival. It makes them feel safe to have and safeguard economic resources. They tend to worry chronically on topics like home insurance, bills, car overhaul, etc. They are adept at handling anything practical or material. He likes to be constantly informed on matters that concern him or they can affect it in some way. They also put a lot of energy into controlling their eating habits and their health; they can become hypochondriacs.
In Their professions they are used to being very hardworking and disciplined. They are used to offering themselves very helpfully to their leaders, even though inwardly they can be rebellious and, over time, end up showing that rebellion.
Those who fall into Enneatype 6 conservation combine a very negative worldview with a warm and positive personality. No wonder they are perceived as contradictory.
It is not easy for them to adapt quickly to the news. They can be fun and friendly, and they want to be involved and committed, but have a hard time relaxing, especially in unfamiliar environments.
When they are more balanced they want the best for everyone else, as well as for themselves. They are responsible, loyal and committed. They often focus on maintaining their stability at home and with their family.
When the conservation ennea type 6 individual is less balanced, their underlying fear is that they will not be able to take care of themselves. They fear they don't have the skills to handle the situation if something goes wrong. They analyze their decisions too much to avoid making mistakes or jeopardizing their safety. They seek trust in others to calm down and protect themselves instead of in themselves. They worry too much about how they are perceived by authority figures (family members, bosses, etc.) and feel they are not loved enough by them. With authority they are used to being submissive, even though they have an internal rebel who can come out in time.
I have to please the world
I don't know how to defend myself
If they see me for who I am, they will not want me, they will reject me, they will ridicule me and humiliate me
I'm only worth it if others give me courage
They will never understand me
I'll never get to anything valuable enough
I must always be right
Exposing myself is dangerous
I'm not worth it
I know nothing
They will discover my mistakes (not being valid, smart); I'm not up to it
SOCIAL: Of the three subtypes of Enneatype 6, this subtype is the most intellectual, hyper-rationalizing and cold. They are unemotional, have a hard time connecting with their anger. They try to be warm, pleasant and good mood, trying to send the message that they are friendly and safe. They like to rely on people, to involve other people in projects or activities they deem worthy.
In the social field they seek security through affiliation with groups or organizations. When they are integrated into groups they feel protected and may consider that in a group they belong to a "force majeure".
The social subtypes of Enneatype 6 defend themselves from fear by respecting the rules, which makes them feel safe. It is as if they had internalized the message "by following the rules you must not be afraid". They usually adopt the rules of their target group. They can suffer from anxiety when there are no clear rules or passwords. They respect the rules and also ask others to respect them. They tend to blame those who do not respect the standards (this also shows that they comply with them).
In their social behavior they may find it difficult to take unpopular positions for the group. They generally prefer to agree with the group to have the support of it, even if they can take on the role of leader and be radical with the ideology of this.
They can believe in the cause of the group, idealize it and work hard for it. They try to become the ideal that the group expects of them to feel more part of the group and the ideals it represents. For example, a enneatype 6 social ecologist can do many things conducive to ecology and feel more part of the group with each recycled tin. Sometimes they can have a radical attitude in taking these values to the extreme: so they can making difficult and controversial decisions. For example, in a Boy Scout group you may be convinced that all boys can be explorers and argue that it is not a girl's group.
People of this subtype are often concerned about their position in the group. They want to know who belongs to the group and who doesn't. Likewise, they are hierarchical and want to know what the internal hierarchy of the group is.
Social subtypes 6 tend to trust and defend the ideology of their group. They try to please the group and the leader of this, but they tend to have an ambivalent relationship with authority: they obey but they put it in discussion. When they obey they are often submissive and when they command they can be tyrants. They are idealists and skeptics, which is why they often idealize authority or a cause, and then they can be disappointed.
Tendency to polarize between "good / bad" and tendency to be passive-aggressive.
When Enneatypes 6 of the social subtype are healthier, they place trust and support in a cause or group they believe in. They are Loyal, obedient and devoted to those in their group, and work tirelessly for them. Can courageously fight injustice, especially when they have the support of their group. They can even fight against an authority figure if they see fit.
When they are less balanced they can be dependent and obedient to satisfy authority. They can hand themselves over to a group, leader or leader. They need the group to manage their insecurities. They work for the group by neglecting their personal needs. They may be afraid to lead for fear of being criticized, judged and rejected.
SEXUAL: The sexual subtype is the most active and intense (it can be as intense as Enneatype 8 or as Enneatype 4 ). Contrary to the 6 conservation enneatypes which move away from threats (phobic reaction), 6 sexual subtypes tend to try to face their fears, as a defense system towards them. They are associated with STRENGTH for their tendency to face the fears they suffer.
They may not be aware of their fears, but when they are, they don't like to acknowledge that they are afraid; embarrasses them. They hide their fear with a strong and reckless attitude. He likes to look intimidating because they tend to believe that the best way not to be attacked is to show themselves strong. Because of this, they can have a more ferocious external appearance, to keep the potential enemy at a distance.
All subtypes of enneatype 6 tend to be quite disciplined and hardworking (probably as a form of defense), and the sexual subtype tries to develop its strength with the fantasy that it can defend itself against any danger. Thus, people of the sexual subtype can apply this discipline and effort in risky sports, such as martial arts, mountaineering, vehicle racing, etc. Sexual Enneatype 6 likes to overcome risks, it likes adrenaline, overcoming fears, because they unconsciously have the fantasy that if they overcome their fears they will be stronger. By proving to be able to overcome their fears, they improve their confidence, but this can lead to situations This tendency can make them seem crazy, rebels, adrenaline junkies, or problematic people.
It could be said that if conservation enneatypes are dependent on safety, those of the sexual subtype are dependent on insecurity.
It is typical that they are interested in martial arts as a way to be strong and defend themselves. Motivation is self defense, not aggression (like Enneatype 8) or competition (like Enneatype 3). They also tend to try to "defend themselves" through beauty (more like women), trying to look attractive in order to contain fear, gain approval and distract others. They can hide behind a seductive mask as an enneatype 3, but unlike the latter, individuals belonging to enneatype 6 are aware that they are hiding. He can act in a cold and practical way. Often this subtype has a stronger connection with the vanity of the enneatype 3.
The sexual subtype of Enneatype 6 seeks security in the emotional bond with his closest relationships, whether with his partner, in family, at work or with one or friendship.
They have doubts about their ability to get to be with the right partner and doubt if they can really trust this. They can be very demanding with their partner's loyalty and may want to make sure by testing. They can be jealous.
They tend to polarize between roles of being very "masculine" and being "flirtatious", especially women, who tend to have a tough side and combine with feminine charm. Men are usually very masculine, hiding their sensitivity and vulnerability.
Usually both feel more comfortable with people of the opposite sex, while with those of the same sex they tend to compete.
Some enneatypes 6 of the sexual subtype may seem more intellectual and show a great interest in acquiring knowledge. They can do this by seeking to become stronger through knowledge. For example, an enneatype 6 sexual could study a lot on the enneagram and do it with the belief that by assimilating this knowledge, it helps him to be internally stronger. However, the force is perceived more as a physical sensation and therefore, in most cases, it is more common for them to cultivate the development of physical strength. Women of the sexual type 6 ennea do not appreciate physical strength as much and put more effort into beauty, that is, they believe that if they are nice enough, they will not be attacked. For some women, beauty is very valuable in gaining the protection of powerful men.
Sexual Subtype is the most active of the Enneatype 6 subtypes. They tend to focus on action. They try to gain confidence by accomplishing their goals or plans, and they also love to impress each other with their actions. They tend to want to be appreciated for what they do (similar to Enneatype 3). Following the previous example of the person studying the enneagram, they may do so to show that they "know a lot" and impress the other person.
Another characteristic of the individuals of the sexual enneatype 6 is their possible inclination for the artistic, with the arts they can go where their logical and rational thinking does not allow it.
They tend to challenge authority. They can project their fears onto authority and fight it.
Childhood experiences of this subtype tend to be harsher than those of the other subtypes of enneatype 6. They tend to have had a bad relationship with at least one of the parents (usually the same sex).
When people of sexual enneatype 6 are more centered, goal-oriented, hardworking and energetic. They lead disciplined lives which allow them to feel strong and confident. They can also be creative (like l'enneatype 4) for their rich imaginations and their good eye for beauty.
When those who fall into sexual enneatype 6 are less centered they try to hide their fears, doubts and insecurities behind exaggerated strength (especially men) or seduction (especially women). They may want to appear intimidating as a defense or seductive to attract a mate. They doubt their physical appeal and fear they are not loved. They can be emotionally unstable about their feelings towards people and change them quickly and abruptly. They can have explosive emotional reactions if they feel threatened. They can be paranoid, feel threatened and respond in an exaggeratedly hostile way (like Don Quixote struggling against the mills because he believed they were giants); in an aggressive state they may resemble enneatype 8, but they experience this attitude as a defense and become victims. They may be unaware of their aggression.
If I stay alert, nothing will happen to me
If others see that I don't know, they will think that I am stupid
If I make a mistake, they will despise me
Everyone cheats or gives up, so I only have myself
If they see that I don't know, they will think that I am not worth
If I'm not right, I'm worth nothing
It's just me, so I can't fail
I am right to attack because I am protecting someone or defending myself
If I show fear, they will take advantage of me
If I can't do what I want for myself, they won't take me into consideration anymore
I don't deserve love, but he must love me as I am
If I am weak, they will despise me
If I show my emotions and they see me vulnerable, they will abuse me
Enneatype 6 is characterized by distrust of others. It is a controlling character that tends more to be vigilant than to trust. He may appear to trust, but he probably does so by "looking his back." He has a mental character that seek security in rational logic. But love is an emotional thing and could be considered, in part, irrational. This is a terrain where this character does not feel comfortable, because love means trusting, let go of control and expose yourself to the possibility of being harmed.
Although there are different types of enneatype 6 individuals, the theme of authority and hierarchy in relationships, both above and below, is important to all. On the theme of love we can distinguish those who are more dependent and insecure and looking for someone to protect them, and those who take authority and put themselves above. The former seem to offer their unconditional loyalty in exchange for protection and the latter, in an attitude patronizing, they offer themselves as protectors.
One of the fears of those who belong to Enneatype 6 is that of being wrong: they tend to feel guilty for their mistakes and therefore argue about what is the "right" attitude they should have with their partner. They have difficulty deciding between what they "should do" and what they "want to do." Furthermore, they are mental characters who doubt what their true feelings are. They are afraid of these, because they subconsciously believe they can have a bad bottom that is better to control, rather than letting what can come out spontaneously flow.
Help him trust
Don't try to gain her trust right away; can not be done. Don't overdo it too much, expose things as they are. Enneatype 6 are very afraid of being scammed. Clearly show your intentions. In their world they are alone two kinds of people: we and them. Show What Your Personal Interests Are: Enthene Type 6 individuals like to know your intentions when you address them.
Don't overdo the enthusiasm because it can scare him and don't overdo it with praise or he'll think you want to flatter him. Don't belittle his fears or try to reassure him. Be understanding with his fears. When faced with his doubts, repeat what has been agreed, the risks and objectives. If you are sincere in explaining your problems, he will always be willing to help you.
Be clear and direct
Listen to me very carefully
Don't judge me for my anxiety
Work things out through me
I'm calm if everything goes well between us.
Laugh and joke with me
Gently push me to new experiences.
Be committed and loyal to family and friends
Be responsible and hardworking
Be compassionate towards others
That I have intellect and wit
Face the danger with courage
Be direct and assertive
Put off for fear of failure; having little faith in myself
Fear of being abandoned or exploited
Exhausted by worry and the threat of danger
Wanting to have a rule book at work, so you can do everything right
Being too critical of myself when I haven't lived up to my expectations
They are kind, nice and reliable, and / or sarcastic, bossy, and stubborn
They are anxious and hypervigilant; they anticipate danger
They form an "us versus them" team with a best friend or father
Authority figures follow to protect themselves and / or question authority and rebel
They usually love, nurture, and have a strong sense of duty
Sometimes they are reluctant to give their children independence
They worry more about their children getting hurt
Sometimes they have trouble saying no and setting limits