(and probably 4 out of Ten men will have to become masters in recognizing this phase)
Today we are talking about a "small detail" that afflicts almost all couples, we are talking about the "premenstrual syndrome" . Obviously it is a case that affects only 4 out of 10 women (so the statistics say). I would like to focus only on the Psychic factor and on the repercussions that this syndrome can have on the stability of the couple during these days. Sources like Wikipedia report this mini list of psychic factors regarding the syndrome.
How many times do you happen to witness movie scenes that can be misinterpreted at first? Well, this is the first sign that something is wrong. In fact, in this phase of the premenstrual syndrome it will not be difficult for the man to witness behaviors of the partner that apparently have a poor correlation with the reality of the facts (but don't say anything). For example: She may be mad at you for no plausible reason, or she may suddenly cry without an explanation. This is an important signal that we sometimes ignore thinking that there really is something to deal with and not understanding that at that moment the partner is simply going through a difficult period for her that she cannot rationally manage.
Obviously, these stages of PMS leave a little stunned for men. Over time, if you have chosen to have a partner, you will have to get used to it and know how to live with it. We must try not to lose patience (even if it is not always easy) because it is a fact that it only takes a few days.
The depressive aspect of PMS is very interesting. In fact, when I am in the phase of depression it will not be easy to keep my nerves if we have not yet noticed the delicate moment that the partner is going through. Authoritative sources say they may be depressed for some, if not all of the day, accompanied by episodes of sadness. These episodes could also sporadically result in melacony which is a sort of status in which the partner feels not only melancholy but also helpless. This "status" in cases unrelated to PMS is also a pathology. Not to mention the loss of personal motivation to pursue goals, solve problems, and sometimes even stop and think and reflect on anything. So if you find her irritable or strange, the advice is to let it pass and maybe ask her if she wants tea. If you can not help but get irritated by the state of your partner, the advice is simply to move away without adding "meat on the fire", find a pretext and go away.
Let's face it, if your libido is increased during the syndrome it is very difficult for you to be here reading this article. Most likely you also feel Superman (Even if it is not said, because we are all different with different priorities and habits). Let's say that with the increase of the Libido the percentage of problems in the couple decreases considerably, while for the opposite case it can go to create unpleasant situations that can easily be avoided. If you are a man who has a morbid attachment to sexual practice, you will probably feel attacked by this attitude, perhaps because he was more open to the act before. Don't worry, be patient, there's nothing you can do. If you run into arguments you would only risk hurting yourself. As for morbid sexual attachment, we will instead provide a specific article later.
If you have noticed weakness in the partner and lack of vitality even when it is required it can also derive from PMS. This weakness, however, does not refer to the classic lack of strength given by fatigue, but to a widespread fatigue even in the phases of rest. In short, you will feel tired all the time even if you sleep 12 hours straight. So don't worry, be patient and turn this moment into constructive too by giving it an extra hand. But ALWAYS remember not to say anything, shut up and you will come out of this phase alive.
Let's say that you are used to talking to your partner quietly and in 90% of cases she listens to you, but today NO! If while you are talking to her about a very important event that could radically change your life, she is staring at a fixed point in the void, do not worry. Has difficulty concentrating. At times it may even seem elusive and it will seem that it does not want to listen to you. Be patient and check if the situation stabilizes in the following days. Then when you go to her to repeat what you told her it will seem like a novelty so pretend you didn't tell her last Tuesday. However, joking aside, this phase of PMS is also difficult.
If you are lucky and you know it before your partner is in the premenstrual phase, you will also know that it is not the right time to give her bad news, joke about the usual things (which you know annoy her but have a lot of fun), load her with extra tasks. or talk about topics that could be stressful. Simply because he would not tolerate any stress in general. This stage of the syndrome is very delicate also because if you have children you will also notice a greater propensity to put them in line or we will notice that you will collapse in front of the tasks that generally perform without problems. We can give her a hand by taking on some tasks ourselves, always without saying anything and trying not to talk about the topics that can increase the stress at that moment. However it is not always easy and I am aware that falling into error is an instant. Especially since she won't let you go through any mistakes during the premenstrual phase.
Among the sleep disorders given by PMS there may be dysomnia or parasomnia. The former imply that your partner will have a lot of ease in sleeping more and waking up more difficult so it can result in an increase in the hours of sleep. While the latter lead your partner to wake up early with the difficulty then in returning to sleep. Do not be alarmed, it is all normal you can always opt to dedicate the time in which she sleeps to playful activities or when she wakes up early to keep her company in front of a herbal tea but as I have repeated several times in this post, do not tell her anything. Indulge her as a good "prince charming" and I assure you that everything will be for the best. Avoid questions like: Why do you sleep so much? Or why are you already awake? And don't encourage her to take psychotropic drugs that could make the situation worse.
Full solidarity if you too have had the opportunity to face these episodes that sometimes completely destabilize. Just know that there is a universal recipe for dealing with this PMS of your partner. The recipe is very, very simple, you have to try not to create friction at this stage. Just flow with your partner's unpredictability. When you can, try to help her. If you still find it difficult to live with your partner's PMS there is solution 2. It has a name that may sound familiar to you. It's called: Pretend Dead! I'm sorry but you can't do great things about it, we have to become masters in recognizing when our partner is in this whirlwind period trying not to be affected by it if not it's the end, if you let yourself go you could also crack relationships for no reason valid.