Today there are many paths that we can take to know ourselves and there are tools that can help us along the way: the enneagram, as a tool for self-knowledge, helps us on the path of personal transformation.
How to understand the thoughts that self-boycott us? How to find out what our potential is?
The enneagram pushes us to take the path of transformation to be an example in the search for oneself and for practical change.
Not only is it a useful tool for ourselves but it also allows us to better understand those around us, because being aware that everyone has their own inner challenges makes us more compassionate, more welcoming and less judgmental.
We can see the enneagram as an instruction manual of the human condition through which we can understand the deepest, often unconscious motivations behind our behaviors and attitudes.
The word "enneagram" comes from the Greek and means 9 drawings. Mainly because it broadly describes 9 personality types, each with its own mental model.
As the skeleton supports the body, our behaviors are also supported by a psychological core from which thoughts originate and where beliefs, values, priorities and aspirations that make up our own are established. personality.
This psychological core is what determines why we are the way we are, we do what we do, what our character traits are, including defects and virtues; on what external elements do we base happiness and unhappiness, what we fear and what we run away from; what are our strengths and innate qualities, how we would like others to see us; including what is the emotional trap that deceives us several times in our life, as well as the root of most of our emotional problems and conflicts.
Although it is impossible to find 2 people with the same eye color, it can be said that normally
in humans, there are 5 types of recurring eye color: brown, black, gray, green and blue. Similarly, although each of us has a unique and unrepeatable mental pattern, it has been shown that forms exist common to perceive and interpret reality, described precisely in the 9 personalities of the enneagram.
There is a lot of confusion about the origin of the enneagram symbol, but we know with certainty the name of the first author who used this instrument: the mystic George Ivanovich Gurdjieff, founder in the first half of the twentieth century. by a group called Seekers After Truth.
Gurdjieff explained to his disciples that the symbol of the Enneagram represents three laws by which our existence is governed:
Many investigators have found that in this symbol of millenary origins much of the universal wisdom that comes from different spiritual and religious traditions is condensed.
In our uniqueness we are the manifestation of a common energy. One of the 9 personalities will represent us more but two individuals with the same enneatype will certainly not be the same, even if they will probably have a series of very common role models. What will make the difference will be the love and stability we received in childhood, as well as socio-cultural conditioning or genetics.
The experts of the Enneagram argue that regardless of the external situation, even having received a lot of love from the parents, the experience of childbirth still leaves us deep psychological wounds. During our childhood these wounds open and intensify, causing our need for love to be overwhelming. This is the reason why the first 6 years of life have a great impact on the development of ours adult personality and in the possible disconnection with our essence. The more love we have received or better said "perceived" during these 6 years, the less we need to hide behind the false identity of the our ego. The less love we have perceived growing up, the harder and stronger our personality, our ego and false self becomes, not to mention the cases of physical and mental abuse, experiences so traumatic as to create one immense protective shield. So over the years, behaviors that do not belong to us end up being part of our way of being. The more self-centered we become, the less we are able to accept what does not depend from us, the more intense our suffering will be.
Knowing our personality through the Enneagram helps us to free ourselves from our ignorance and unawareness, it helps us to identify the limits created by our Ego in order to reconnect with the quality and strength of the our true essence.
The Enneagrama gives us an objective map of the human being, through which we can understand more deeply the motivations behind the behavior of the people with whom we relate.
We can group the 9 personalities into 3 triads: mental, emotional and impulsive. The enneatypes of the same triad have in common characteristics, habits, points of view, etc. As regards the 9 personalities let's see together briefly what they are with a synthesis for each one. (If you want to deepen or find out immediately which personality reflects you you can take the enneagram test .)
Type 1: the perfectionist. Of solid principles, ethical and conscientious. They see no nuances and clearly divide good from evil. They fear mistakes, they are well organized and meticulous, they can be critical and perfectionists. They usually have problems with anger and repressed impatience. The balanced Type 1 is wise, realistic, noble and morally heroic. Go to the full description of the Enneagram type 1
Type 2: the donor. Type 2 is worried about others. Understanding, sincere, generous but in its extremes it can be sentimental and flattering. They usually do things for others for the purpose of feeling wanted. They generally have problems taking care of themselves and recognizing their needs. At his best he is a healthy, generous person who feels unconditional love for himself and others. Go to the full description of the Enneagram type 2
Type 3: the performer. Success-oriented type 3 people are self-confident, charming and charismatic. Ambitious, competent, full of energy, aware of one's position, I can be a lot motivated for personal growth. They care about their image and what others think of them, they usually have problems with work addiction and competition. When balanced a type 3 accepts himself, it is authentic and a role model that inspires other people. Go to the full description of the Enneagram type 3
Type 4: The romantic. Introspective, self-aware, sensitive, reserved and calm. Type 4s are sincere but can also be temperamental and shy. They hide from others because they feel vulnerable and defective. They normally have problems with self-compassion. In their state of balance they are inspirational and very creative, capable of renewing and transforming their experiences.
Type 5: The observer. Types 5 are very alert, insightful and curious. They are able to focus and focus attention on developing complex ideas and skills. Independent, innovators, it is possible that become obsessed with a lively imagination. In general they can have problems with isolation, eccentricity and nihilism. In its balanced appearance, the Type 5 is a visionary pioneer, cutting edge and capable of seeing the world in a totally new way.
Type 6: The loyal skeptic. Type 6 people are trustworthy, hardworking and responsible, yet they can be defensive, invasive and very nervous; they work so hard until they get stressed and complain. They can be cautious and indecisive, although sometimes reactive, rebellious and provocative. In their healthy aspect they are internally stable, self-confident, independent and courageously support the weak and the weak unable.
Type 7: The Optimist. Productive, frenetic, versatile, optimistic and spontaneous. Types 7 are playful and practical but could be disorganized and unruly. They are constantly looking for new and stimulating experiences, continued activity over time tires them. In general they have problems of superficiality and impulsiveness, but when they are centered, they are cheerful, grateful and qualified.
Type 8: The boss. The 8 people are sure of themselves, strong and able to impose themselves, protectors, ingenious, decisive, they are also proud and dominant; they think they have to be in charge and can become intimidating. Healthy 8s control themselves, use force to improve other people's lives, becoming heroic, selfless and sometimes historically great.
Type 9: The mediator. Accommodating and humble, the Type 9 is conformist, confident and stable. People belonging to this enneatype are friendly and offer their support; they may also be too tolerant to keep the peace and avoid conflict. They want everything to be okay by tending to be complacent and downplay anything that is disturbing to them. They usually have problems of passivity and obstinacy. At their best appearance they are indomitable and welcoming, capable of uniting people and managing conflicts.