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How to forgive, forgive yourself and feel better

Some tips to forgive and forgive enclosed in a guide taken from the studies of recent years

It is absolutely possible to forgive and forgive oneself even when events are serious.

Over time during the spiritual research that I have faced with different techniques ... I have noticed how one of the strongest is The Forgiveness , in fact thanks to it you can free really important blocks that affect everyday life.

Thanks to it, a person could change his attitude towards life from today to tomorrow. Forgiving parents, children, relatives, friends, colleagues, siblings, partners remains one of the most powerful tools we have for our personal and spiritual growth.

Disadvantages of the association of forgiveness with religion.

Forgiveness is generally associated with Christianity , but in reality it is present in almost all religions. In religions it is used accompanied by the dogmas of the religion itself. On the one hand, they give a solution as valid as forgiveness, following Jesus for example, but then they create in the individual a sort of extra fear, namely that of sin and divine fear.

In this case you are told for example to pass through Jesus to communicate with "God" but not all the attention is shifted inside as for example it could have been at the time of the Gnostics or the Essenes. This prevents many from truly living a free life, because generally this creates other "To Be Forgiven" things that are even stronger due to the guilt that self-builds in the individual from dogma.

It is also useless to remember that religions in general over time have always been used to control the faithful. To acquire power and status, which today is preserved but which was all conquered in a very little "divine" way.

But this is well known even if ignored on a large scale.

Why choose a forgiveness detached from religion.

Before explaining the advantages, I would like to add an important note.

Obviously detaching forgiveness from religion does not mean being able to behave like people of the opposite extreme, perhaps sinning and using this tool to alleviate the negative emotional charge that arises within while negative patrons are repeated.

It would not even be possible, because on the one hand it would continuously "dirty" the conscience, on the other hand, it would always spend time cleaning up the soul. Which doesn't change much from always carrying a burden.

Another reason is:

-In religious forgiveness, fewer types of techniques are contemplated, to achieve the same result, while these techniques have proved to be very useful.

And they could greatly enhance the results such as:

- Personally repeated written phrases such as mantras, deep meditation, visualization, direct interaction, non-religious prayer etc ...

A second reason is what religion unfortunately binds to certain "states" in which we tend not to see our interior clearly , instead misleading as if this liberation comes only and exclusively from the outside. Fortunately, this is not the case in all religious contexts but in many it is. I remain of the idea that forgiveness is a 100% conscious and personal work and that it must be carried out periodically because as we meet people on our path it is not said that we will have already learned to forgive instantly (even if in the long run that is the goal, train yourself to forgive to do it automatically).

Forgive yourself

Forgiveness turns out to be one of the most complex practices because it is also accompanied by ideals, thought forms and expectations placed on oneself. We often grow up with the conviction that we will have to be what we think we should be or behave differently according to a previously set pattern. It is useful in this phase to review what are the foundations of our beliefs and if they are basically sound or have a too high or manic claim, thus making it much more complex to satisfy.

Furthermore, it must be said that "being" in the common form has nothing to do with being at the spiritual level of the individual. They are totally different topics and if we identify with the actions we perform it can probably be destructive, as many times it can happen that for different reasons we tend to act differently. Same thing is valid for thought, identification with the thought of the individual often prevents one from forgiving oneself completely .

If you have a different thought from what we think we should have simply the principle of analysis associated with it is wrong. Because we are not what we think. Thought acts consistent with itself or with the "database" (our brain) which crosses data and sends a result in response. If we truly and deeply want to forgive ourselves, we must come out of identification with it.

Forgive others

Forgiving others is a practice that first of all requires a good dose of desire to do it consciously that you do for yourself and on the other hand if you want to do it in the correct way you need compassion towards others. Which must not be a frivolous excuse for "I understand you" or "I understand why you did it" but a deep understanding that also inserts the feeling attached to compassion. An identification with the other person that allows us to arrive at concrete explanations of the events that have occurred.

It is useful to evaluate the past of the person we need to forgive, and then understand the reasons connected, without forgetting where that person comes from. If we do not understand other people, it will be more difficult to reach a state of profound loosening of the burdens that the lack of forgiveness can bring. However, we can certainly achieve excellent results but if we want to forgive as much as possible, a phase of profound reflection on the other person will be necessary.

Furthermore, total sincerity is another strong factor, because being honest also equates to taking responsibility for the events that have occurred and this changes the result enormously. We can realize that in the end we always have a portion of guilt and this greatly decreases the internal load by helping us to work on other aspects of our personality that may have different origins.

With a hand on the conscience it is important to make this effort which requires a lot of mental energies in total transparency. Only then can you truly forgive, it has to happen in the absence of the ego. Without that instinct of automatic self-protection that is grafted into the mind as a child, that sense that says "it wasn't me". It is always worthwhile to investigate thoroughly and therefore increase the understanding of oneself and others.

Below is a seemingly simple exercise that will help you forgive yourself and others, if you want to do it seriously. It really works, it has worked for us and it continues to work.

Practical exercise of forgiveness:

If you believe in a God, Angel, Universe, Force, Something that your mind considers bigger (not with religious connotation but as a personal belief), that's fine for this exercise. It is used to "partially entrust" the things that you think are bigger than you (not totally) and to lighten certain inner loads. Or simply to feel stronger when you do the exercise.

It can be a support. However, if you want, you can totally use a personal and more psychological / scientific approach than that of a "divine" connotation. This point is a personal choice but the important thing is to "connect the exercise" to your way of thinking, to what you believe to be absolute truth (what you believe so is).

You will activate its effects and make sure that it really works.

1) Take an A4 sheet

Divide it into three columns, the first is the one where you will write the names of the people you should forgive .

The second is where you write the ones that should forgive you .

In the third enter the what. That is the reason why they have to forgive you or why you have to forgive * .

2) Once the sheet has been divided, fill it in as serious and sincere as possible

Obviously you will not remember all or all the events but slowly you will remember more and more.

Generally the most difficult to put on the list of people to forgive is ourselves .

* Tip: Description column
In this column, describe in full, or just one word will help you immediately think about what happened. I recommend writing everything from top to bottom because it helps to release a lot more and to realize the real reasons for quarrel and the feelings we feel.

How to forgive and release the "inner ballast".

A) Call.

The call is a technique for strong personalities, because it involves studying what has happened, understanding the uselessness of carrying this load inside and then calling directly to the people concerned (or looking for them on social networks to contact them) to do the "difficult thing". Ask for forgiveness or directly say I forgive you.

We all consider this technique to be very valid and very powerful because it puts in direct contact and therefore manages to have an instant tangibility that certainly does not hurt.

Furthermore, with this technique it is not uncommon to see families restored, relationships that recover or other very important social dynamics, it is perhaps needless to say that you cannot use it on yourself (it would be hilarious to call yourself on your mobile ehehehe).

Clearly not everyone can be contacted and not everyone is good to contact them, the characters are many and also the situations, so opt in that case for an alternative technique among those below.

B) Visualization and repetitive declaration (mantra style).

This technique is very similar to conscious meditation. It works as a way to "reprogram", pass me the term, towards positivity.

It will be enough to concentrate, one at a time, on the events described, live that moment and imagine that it is happening in that instant. Visualize what happened and repeat the phrase I forgive you, or forgive me trying to hear and internalize it as much as possible.

Notes: Some also imagine that it fades or the view becomes blurred, but that is at your personal discretion. By just repeating the sentence many times thinking about what happened and the person involved, you will really release a lot of inner weight.

C) Prayer not out of religiosity but to converse with one's superior self or with God, energy, light, universe, guardian in whom we believe.

In this case it will be necessary to simulate a real conversation with "divine energy" to which we rely in order to forgive.

We must hold firm to the belief that our upper part is not "punitive" but on the contrary, super compassionate and willing to forgive instantly when you ask for forgiveness.

On the other hand, it will be a perfect helper to forgive those in duty.

After analyzing what we have written on the A4 sheet we will have a lot of material to be able to vent by talking to our higher entity.

In most cases, you will also have realized how unimportant the reason for the fight was.

Given your self-protection, fear, pride, ego or disappointed expectation, which are all negative and destructive connotations that you will have to try to "smooth out" if not eliminate in the course of your journey (There are no benign versions of the same, these characteristics are what generally create the walls).

Then simply converse spontaneously, not forgetting powerful phrases like:

I forgive you or forgive me. Repeat several times until you release the associated negative emotions. You can mix techniques or use all 3 of them.


It is not strange if during the process you will cry or want to let off steam. You will feel a great lightness after the exercises.

These are not all possible techniques but I will certainly write other articles on the subject, complementary to this one. Let us know how your forgiveness exercise goes in the comments. Keep following us if you liked the article.

Good forgiveness. Soon.