As is known and proven by science, everything that surrounds us and that we are is energy, which is in constant transformation; some energetic processes are more visible, others less evident to our eyes. All forms in which energy manifests itself emit a vibration or frequency, so everything we perceive in the physical environment is pure vibration.
This implies consequences in the process of determining the reality that surrounds us; our actions in fact originate from our thoughts, but we often do not realize a more subtle process that we set in motion through pure thought, which is a very powerful energy, endowed with vibration, for which it happens that what is found in resonance with this, it too moves towards us. We can therefore speak of a very powerful law of attraction, for which like attracts like.
In fact, when we think about something, we begin to attract its essence into our life, and the more we focus on a certain theme, the greater the vibration emitted, until the manifestation of what we have desired; therefore everything that happens is the product of the requests that we transmit with our thoughts.
Therefore also from a relational point of view, all those we meet, friends, lovers, especially enemies, are a response to our vibrational request, since we do not attract anything that has not been previously invited with the thought.
Unfortunately, many of our relationships are not the result of a conscious and controlled attraction, given that the attraction often does not take place voluntarily but automatically , and sometimes we are not aware of mechanisms that occur at an unconscious level. Trying to have self-awareness certainly leads to changing one's thoughts and therefore what one attracts into one's life, hence the importance of being aligned with oneself and working on one's egoic aspects and on parental and cultural conditioning.
Observing our life it can be easily seen how relationships, that is the process of co-creation with others, are responsible for almost all the present suffering, which however is a source of an enormous enrichment of personal experience. The deepest joys and sorrows are in fact linked to relationships with others, and a good portion of them is undoubtedly linked to the love experience.
The relationship is first of all a couple relationship with ourselves, in which the other is a reflection in which to observe ourselves, that is , a mirror that we are using more or less consciously. In fact, everything we are and what we think is reflected in what surrounds us, people and events.
Dyer talks about it calling it "force of intention", understood as a universal force that allows the act of creation in all areas; a force that is not linked to the individual attitude that moves each of us to action, but is a cosmic energy of which we are all a part, and which we can draw on to really shape our life.
However, drawing on it, that is, also becoming aware of the attraction process that we trigger, strictly depends on the connection with ourselves, and of our ego with the intention, understood as universal energy; in this process, the Ego, not by chance also called the Adversary (by some even with the name of Satan or Lucifer, meaning the opposition between God and the Devil as nothing more than the inner conflict of man between the Higher Self and Ego), has a fundamental role, since it constitutes all those resistances that prevent us from connecting with the intention. For example, our resistances can mean that we do not recognize our soul mate even when we have it in front of us.
If we want to attract the ideal partner, we will have to start by giving what we want to attract, in fact if we want a "perfect" partner, we should begin to resemble that idea of perfection we have, that is, to be like those we want, and remember that , if something denies us permission to be happy, it is actually an obstacle built by us, very often in an unconscious and / or unconscious way.
It is therefore very important to remember the following elements in order to reap the benefits of the law of attraction:
the power and influence of one's thinking;
the importance of action, that is, making thought concrete through actions that are consistent with the set objective;
the unconscious, the ego, preconceptions and certain beliefs are factors that can hinder, delay, prevent the occurrence of the law of attraction.
I find that the concept of attraction / intention and of mirror between ourselves and reality are deeply linked in a relationship of symbiosis, since based on who we are, we exercise a certain attraction, and in the same way, based on what we attract we can understand what we are; furthermore, by becoming aware of the attraction process, one can modify one's own reality and therefore also the mirrors in which we reflect; in the same way we can use mirrors, and therefore the situations that arise, to verify where we are in our evolution and if we are actually changing our way of being, that is, our ability to co-create.
The couple relationship, in particular, due to the intimate nature that it entails, is something very powerful, since it is our most intimate bonds that awaken the greatest fears, the deepest abysses, to expose our worst sides: through the partner turns out in fact everything we had buried.
The power of the law of attraction and mirrors is expressed by making us always find a partner who hides wounds able to clash perfectly with ours, in fact we always find the partner we need for a greater understanding of ourselves: the problem is poses when the couple is not experienced by adopting this broader perspective, and in essence when we blame the other for all that is not right, instead of bringing attention to ourselves.
In practice, the more things about the partner, or about the person we are in front of, we bring back to us, the more we will fill our inner voids, increasing the harmony in the relationship.
The law of attraction and mirrors sometimes manifest themselves in a way that is not always easy and immediate to understand; in this regard I want to report a description of the mirrors that helped me a lot in understanding this incredible and useful phenomenon, trying to get something out of me. The description to which I refer is that of the seven mirrors described by the Essenes, an ancient people who had described a role of human relationships by dividing them into seven categories; they called them mirrors precisely because they remind us that in every moment of our life our inner reality is mirrored by the actions, choices and language of those around us.
The E sseni were farmers , fruit growers and profound connoisseurs of the properties of herbs , crystals and color with which they treated all those who asked for their help. According to Pliny, the Essenes were a community that had abandoned the vanities of the world and had risen spiritually, achieving a rather consistent mystical knowledge.
Thanks to the precious work of Gregg Braden, known precisely as The Seven Essene Mirrors of human relationships and compassion, today we can take advantage of the great spiritual knowledge of the Essenes to bring substantial improvements in the quality of our life. This concept is as simple as it is revolutionary, if understood in its breadth. It is like having a spaceship available that could lead us to explore the universe, in this case our inner universe, but that if we do not know how to maneuver it risks not working: we must have the tenacity and patience to get on this spaceship and familiarize yourself with its various parts.
The difficulties that we can encounter in this path are of two types, since we must both pay attention to the definitions of mirrors, understanding their meaning, and pay attention to ourselves and our inner mechanisms. Looking inside oneself is not easy since this involves becoming aware of one's inner wounds, a process that is by no means immune to suffering; it involves feelings of fear and therefore of possible resistance, that is, attempts to oppose and reject this procedure.
Every day, in our social and working life, we deal with many people; mirrors can manifest themselves in any type of relationship and context in which we find ourselves. When we are in relationship with another person we should ask ourselves why a particular individual creates specific emotions and sensations in us. We should understand that, through the other and the multiple events that occur, the universe offers us an opportunity for evolution, for the acquisition of awareness and for the healing of our inner wounds.
According to the first mirror, what we recognize in others is simply the image of who we are in the present.
Those close to us send it back to us, reflecting us. For example, if we recognize goodness in the other, it means that we ourselves at that moment are probably transmitting this signal of goodness. If we are nervous, we will reflect it equally and what reality will postpone will most likely be equally nervous: let's take the case that we are late, everything that slows us down at that moment, from people to traffic, makes us even more nervous. .
When we are able to recognize a quality in a person, we must keep in mind that we are able to do it not by chance, but because that quality is also part of us, in fact we are able to recognize only what already belongs to us and we know. ; this obviously also applies in the case of a negative characteristic.
We keep in mind that that quality or "defect" does not necessarily belong to us in the present moment, perhaps it may have been part of us in the past; sometimes reality manifests what we refuse to accept or see within ourselves .
If I consider myself a good person, but am surrounded by behavioral patterns based on anger and violence, I have to ask myself why reality is putting me in front of that situation. One of the hypotheses may be that inside of us we deny anger, we repress it, or that maybe we hide something from ourselves and in ourselves; in essence we deny everything we do not want to be and that we cannot bear .
In a situation where we consider ourselves victims, for example, what does reality mean to us? Perhaps it may reflect some kind of disrespect and disrespect that we first have towards ourselves, and which we perhaps do not realize, allowing others to take that attitude towards us as well. Everyone should consider their specific situation and ask themselves: why does reality confront me with this?
Everything we receive from others is a pure reflection of ourselves, sometimes difficult to recognize, because we often live on automated attitudes and models, acquired in most cases by parents, who seem normal to us and therefore we cannot even understand why certain events in life they manifest themselves repeatedly: life does nothing but place us in front of people and facts to make us grow, until we open ourselves to this understanding, we do not look for why by looking inside ourselves first, we will not get out of it; as long as we continue to escape, to close ourselves, life will put us harder and harder and more persistently in the face of certain facts.
The people who have the greatest effect on us sometimes have it only because that unresolved or not understood part of ourselves, binds without us being able to control it, to all that of the other can allow us to bring out that part. same part, that is to everything that in fact can make us evolve and improve.
In summary, the first mirror shows us through who and what surrounds us, what we are or what we deny about ourselves in the present moment . It is evident that this mirror involves the sphere of all possible social relationships, from friendship to love, to health, to work, to family, manifesting itself in all kinds of contexts and places, from the queue at the bank, in the car driving, at the bus stop etc etc ..
If you recognize that the behavioral patterns of those around you do not belong to you, so you have discarded the first mirror, ask yourself if you are judging what is shown to you instead.
Judgment, understood as the ability to distinguish good from evil and consequently evaluate people or things, is extremely widespread in our society, this creates numerous effects. First of all we can distinguish two types of judgment: what we operate towards others and what we implement towards ourselves.
In the example I am about to give you, there is a very strong link between the first mirror and the second: in fact it happens that by operating a negative judgment on certain emotions, we perform an act of repression of these, which if they are not recognized and accepted can lead to to unpleasant effects, that is, as mentioned above, to the manifestation in reality of all that we refuse to see. An example can be pedophilia: priests who should respect the vow of chastity, repress their sexual desires by judging them wrong, trying not to see them, denying them, then obtaining the opposite effect, that is, that of the explosion of sexual desire in a perverse way.
We need to understand a fundamental point: judgment does not belong to reality, it belongs to our mind: the universe does not care what is right or wrong in our mind, it goes ahead with its laws.
The application of judgment creates great internal conflicts since it is not at all easy to distinguish in every situation what is good from evil; often these two factors are developed distinctly according to one's culture and religion. Our drives, like our sexual ones, our desires and thoughts have to cope with the heavy burden of judgment and prejudice present in our society. Usually when we believe that something is right, we consequently operate a negative evaluation of its opposite, starting in most cases a process of non-acceptance towards the element considered. The stronger this charge, the greater the probability that what we are strongly judging will manifest itself near us.
What just happened in that moment? Through the wisdom of the third mirror we are asked to admit the possibility that, in our innocence, we give up large parts of ourselves in order to survive the experiences of life. They can be lost, without us realizing it, or perhaps we lose them consciously or they are taken away from us by those who have power over us.
Sometimes when we find ourselves in the presence of an individual who embodies the very things we have lost and are looking for, in order to find our wholeness, our bodies express a physiological response by means of which we realize that we have a magnetic attraction towards that person. . If you find yourself in the presence of someone and, for some inexplicable reason, you feel the need to spend time with that person, ask yourself a question: what does this person have that I have lost, have given in, or been taken away from me? The answer may surprise you a lot because you will actually recognize this feeling of familiarity, to almost everyone you meet. That is, you will see parts of yourself in everyone.
Sometimes the meeting with a person can therefore be linked to the fact that we need to get back in touch with that part that we have lost: when we realize this, that is when we grasp the teaching of the situation, it can happen that the interest in the person fades. It is not a pleasant effect to think that on certain occasions we risk being a pure mirror for the other, or that the other can be for us; considering their personal experience, however, for most people I think it is evident and inevitable that some relationships last and others do not, for various reasons. In any case, we are always a mirror for others and others for us, but relationships that are based on a real feeling do not collapse with the realization of the mirror.
The fourth mirrorless of human relationships is a somewhat different quality. Over the years it often happens that we adopt behavioral models which then become so important that we reorganize the rest of our lives to accommodate them. Often these behaviors are compulsive, they are addictive.
The Fourth Mystery of Human Relationships allows us to observe ourselves in a state of addiction and compulsion. Through addiction and compulsion, we slowly give up the very things we care about most. That is, as we yield to them, little by little we see ourselves leaving the things we love most. For example, when we talk about addiction and compulsion, many people think of alcohol and nicotine which are certainly capable of creating such states.
But there are other more subtle patterns of behavior such as exercising control in a corporate or family setting or addiction to sex, to possessing or generating money and abundance, these are also examples of compulsion and addiction. When a person embodies such a model of behavior, he can be sure that the model, which is beautiful in itself, has slowly been created over time. Little by little, we give up the things that are dearest to us.
If we reorganize our lives to make way for the model of alcoholism or substance abuse, perhaps we are giving up portions of our life represented by the people we love, by family, by work, by our own survival.
Through this mirror we are asked to admit the possibility that our parents' actions towards us reflect our beliefs and expectations regarding the relationship between us and our Mother and our Heavenly Father, that is, with the male aspect and feminine of our creator, however we conceive it.
For example, if we find ourselves living a relationship with parents by whom we continually feel judged or for whom even doing our best is never enough, it is highly likely that that relationship reflects the following truth: it is we who believe, within us. , of not being up to par and that perhaps we have not achieved what was expected of us through our perception of ourselves up to the Creator. This is a powerful and very intangible mirror, which, perhaps more than others, can reveal to us why we have lived our lives in a certain way.
Compared to my experience, the relationship with one's parents is very important, not so much the material relationship as the approach and inner perception towards them.
In systemic psychotherapy, honoring and respecting one's parents is a fundamental point, because there are always consequences linked to whether a person respects his parents or not.
In fact, since each of us is partly our father and partly our mother, in addition to bringing something personal with us, not honoring our parents means partly rejecting ourselves. In particular, those who strongly despise their parents feel empty and unfulfilled, and the more they reject their parents the more they unwittingly punish themselves. Like it or not, parents are the origin of life, and actually they can represent a substitute for the Creator and the Heavenly Mother, through whom we are given a great opportunity for growth. Judging our parents is counterproductive and useless, because a bond is created between children and parents that goes beyond morality; the only thing we can do is learn to accept them with humility. One must know how to accept one's parents in order to be able to walk one's own path in peace.
It is important to become aware of the attitude one has towards one's parents as this will in turn affect the relationship with our partner and also our children. We are all children in the first place, later we could be parents in turn: knowing the inner dynamics of the parent-child relationship is important not only for being at peace, but also because it ends up influencing our relationship as a couple and our children. For example, what bothers us about the partner will also annoy us in the children. We are all the result of our parents, consequently the result of all our ancestors: in every family the man and the woman carry with them the values of the family of origin.
This can be conceived as a moment in which one feels completely lost, a moment of extreme difficulty. The mirror wants to teach us that, if we have reached that point, we have actually developed all the means and strengths we need to overcome it.
Until we have those tools our own, we will never find ourselves in situations that require us to demonstrate certain skill levels. So, from this perspective, the highest challenges in life, those imposed on us by human relationships and perhaps even by our very survival, can be perceived as great opportunities at our disposal, to test our ability, rather than as tests to be overcome or to fail.
Through this mirror we can also gain more confidence in life and have confidence in ourselves as we live. The dark night of the soul represents for us the opportunity to lose everything that has always been dear to us in life and to see ourselves in the presence and nakedness of that nothing. Just as we climb out of the abyss of what we have lost and perceive ourselves in a new light, we express our highest levels of mastery.
The mirror asks us to admit the possibility that each life experience, regardless of its results, is in itself perfect and natural. Aside from whether or not we succeed in achieving the high milestones that have been set for us by others, we are invited to look at our successes in life and not compare them to anything. Without using external references of any kind.
The only way we can see ourselves in the light of success or failure is when we measure our results, using an external yardstick. At that point the following question arises: “Which model are we relying on to measure our results? What meter do we use? "
From the perspective of this mirror we are asked to admit the possibility that every aspect of our personal life - any aspect - is perfect as it is. From the shape and weight of our body to our achievements in academia, business or sports. We are therefore invited to allow ourselves to be the only point of reference for the results we achieve.
"The law of attraction and emotional relationships" by Esther and Jerry Hicks "
"The Power of Intention" by Wayne W. Dyer